couples can influence one another with eating patterns, often to their detriment, and this can boost caloric intake. change is inevitable and it is best to accept that some change in weight and physical attractiveness will happen for both of you over time. being critical of your partner is toxic and according to john gottman is one of the predictors of divorce. attacking the overweight spouse compounds the problem by adding layer upon layer of shame and humiliation. whereas they …

the key to not let the first year of marriage problems take a toll on your bond is to nurture it with love, affection, understanding and commitment. thus, it is advised that you try to keep your expectations realistic to avoid getting disappointed during the first year of marriage. you have to understand the dynamics of your marital relationship and adjust wherever possible for a lasting and happy marriage. the genesis of these problems can be tracked down to the …

in the midst of wedding planning, shinny rings and happy celebrations, very few people give engaged couples the tools and information they need to build a happy, solid marriage. the way you handle the first three years of your marriage will set a foundation for the decades ahead. those first years are usually tough for everyone.” i was a little stunned! later, after my wife and i successfully worked through those challenges, i realized that my initial expectations of what …

i’ve had to make it all up for myself, and i’m never sure i got it right.”       “what was always incomprehensible to me was your total lack of feeling for the suffering and shame you could inflict on me with your words and judgments.”  kafka goes on to say that the hostility his father expressed against him as a child, he now turns against himself. personally, i have twice attempted to untie this knot , first with my father and …

the one person with whom it works proves to you, in the course of being together, that he or she really gets who you are. how in the world can you get back to opening yourself up to someone who has hurt you? and you can allow yourself time to heal from the hurts of the past, because that is a natural process that cannot be rushed. because your guard remains up (that was number one in this list), your …