i used to think it was because i really loved the other person and that it was some inverted sign of maturity because i was choosing to “work through it,” at the expense of my dignity. this was all due to un-dealt-with trauma and shame from my past, which made me a sitting duck for believing lies that were just as obnoxious as the ones i was telling myself. and i no longer feel guilty about not wanting to continue …

and i didn’t recognize any of the three people a was apparently interacting with often. worse than that, though, was the fact that she had uploaded a screenshot of my boyfriends face from snapchat to her twitter and it had the hashtag of “man crush monday”. i think the worst part about this was that a knew all this, and still chatted with other girls without telling me. we clicked instantly, and it’s safe to say that he is pretty …

a month ago, my boyfriend broke my trust is a large way, and apologized for it, saying that he only did what he did out of anger. my trust in him was shaken, and i had to reconsider the relationship. then, he broke that trust again, a few more times, breaking very specific agreements. but he refuses to give his password, saying that he values his privacy too much.

he offered alternative plans to rebuild the trust he broke, since …

the one person with whom it works proves to you, in the course of being together, that he or she really gets who you are. how in the world can you get back to opening yourself up to someone who has hurt you? and you can allow yourself time to heal from the hurts of the past, because that is a natural process that cannot be rushed. because your guard remains up (that was number one in this list), your …

i’ve had to make it all up for myself, and i’m never sure i got it right.”       “what was always incomprehensible to me was your total lack of feeling for the suffering and shame you could inflict on me with your words and judgments.”  kafka goes on to say that the hostility his father expressed against him as a child, he now turns against himself. personally, i have twice attempted to untie this knot , first with my father and …