the one person with whom it works proves to you, in the course of being together, that he or she really gets who you are. how in the world can you get back to opening yourself up to someone who has hurt you? and you can allow yourself time to heal from the hurts of the past, because that is a natural process that cannot be rushed. because your guard remains up (that was number one in this list), your …

how you need to feel: fixing a broken marriage means wanting to fix a broken marriage, and you are never going to truly want it if you aren’t in love with the idea of molding the relationship back into the best version of itself. but leaving the past behind doesn’t erase it; it just turns it into a weight that you and your spouse have to deal with for the rest of your lives. while it doesn’t really dig deep …