you’re probably wondering how to trust anyone again after someone cheats, whether you decide to stay with the same person or date someone new. i take it you don’t want to be among the cheating statistics. it is possible to keep your head out of the sand without being in constant investigative mode, and if you find that you are in a perpetual state of mental unrest and anxiety, then additional healing should be your goal, not a new partner …

this time of upheaval will pass, if you get help and practice the skills you learn in each phase of recovery. and you don’t want your partner to think that this means they are forgiven. you may each crave the feeling of being intimate and in each other’s arms. during the crisis phase, you may find there is so much betrayal, anger and resentment you can’t imagine ever connecting to your partner again. one way to do this is to …

kelli miller is a psychotherapist, author, and tv/radio host based in los angeles, california. kelli also facilitates groups for those struggling with alcohol and drug addiction as well as anger management groups. kelli was a host on la talk radio, a relationship expert for the examiner, and speaks globally. she received her msw (masters of social work) from the university of pennsylvania and a ba in sociology/health from the university of florida.

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it’s as simple as that – but the feelings that come with it are hardly ever simple. it can make you question everything about yourself, your relationship and your life. but we’re here to tell you that it’s going to be okay – not immediately, but definitely soon. people do hurtful things for a whole bunch of reasons – and maybe your partner can explain theirs – but those reasons have nothing to do with you. so, we’ll say it …

we recognize that this may be challenging for some to read and advise those still dealing with the trauma of an affair to exercise their best judgment in reading this. in this phase for recovery, according to the gottman method, it is the cheater’s responsibility to take fault as well as make amends and reparation for their actions. the everyday reminders of my cheating and the verbal lashes i received from my partner made it seem as if it would …