is there a part of you who has problems attaching to others romantically because you fear being hurt? many people in chicago and elsewhere seek out the guidance of a relationship counselor for these very reasons. in the absence of trust lives fear, a human emotion that if left unchecked can paralyze us in a number of life areas, including romantic love. but if your fear of getting close to others is preventing you from meeting new people and keeping …

like maura and kevin, many of the couples that i work with in my practice have feelings of mistrust when it comes to facing day-to-day challenges. through vulnerability, you’ll be able to re-establish a secure emotional attachment and preserve intimacy in your marriage. one of the hardest things about trusting someone is learning to have confidence in your own judgment. but day by day, if you learn to operate from a viewpoint that your partner loves you and wants the …

this is one of the main reasons it’s important for people who have fears to find healthy ways to deal with intimacy disorders and emotional intimate discomfort. one of the most common fears of being intimate that can lead to problems with being intimate is the fear of abandonment or loss. this is a direct route to the development of issues with being intimate. maintain a balanced distance until your partner lets you know that they are ready to work …

there are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. the good news is life doesn’t have to be this way. in an effort to serve as many kids as possible, the chosen therapeutic modality was group counseling focusing on anger management and social skills. perhaps you relate to the inherent difficulty of letting someone in. maybe you used to feel safe sharing your hopes, dreams, and demons, but not anymore. and one way to avoid …

most people agree they can sense a lack of integrity in an individual, as if there is a little voice in their head warning them not to trust a particular person. others have caught cheating spouses in the act, or witnessed a friend backstab them in the name of their own personal gain. this can cause further detriment to our lives, as we are no longer able to build functional friendships or romantic relationships. realize that it may take this …