so it is not surprising that when sex or desire falters for one or both of you it can feel very destructive and damaging. if this is happening to you it is really important to understand what is going on so that you can set up good communication between you, and you can begin to work together on the underlying causes. the subject of not having sex can become so fraught that you cannot actually have the conversation and need …

we start with big hopes and dreams that our relationship is special, different than anyone else’s and that the sex is going to be hot and mind-blowing for the rest of our lives. the saddest part is that partners are usually not aware that this is normal; they don’t want to acknowledge it as normal, and they don’t talk about it. by the way, this is only a problem if there’s a difference in the level of sex drive and …

while this is true to a great extent, a lack of physical intimacy in marriage can wreak havoc on your married life and affect you in numerous ways. being stuck in a platonic relationship and having to deal with your advances being shot down or ignored, time after time, can lead you to doubt your ability to satisfy or please your spouse. being unhappy in a marriage because of the lack of physical touch in a relationship clouds your judgment …

one of the great truisms in psychology is the fact that relationships matter to our sense of well-being. two of those stages applied specifically to the college years: identity vs. identity diffusion and intimacy vs. isolation (click on these links to read more about them). our participants were in their late 50s, and we had data from their college years that we could use to predict their scores on identity and intimacy at the earlier intervals when they were in …

at the same time, when there is a falling out, it starts with a lack of affection and intimacy in a relationship. this is certain to leave you starved of affection and intimacy with your partner. when you realize that your relationship lacks affection and intimacy, it is a warning sign for the longevity of your romantic life. when there is a lack of affection and intimacy, you will have little or no motivation to share your emotional feelings with …