the fearful-avoidant attachment style is considered to be a combination of the anxious attachment style and the avoidant attachment style. in general though, it might hard to tell if you have the fearful-avoidant attachment style without consulting with a professional, in part because it tends to present a combination of behaviors that also align with both the anxious and avoidant attachment styles. people with this attachment style tend to both seek out connection and closeness while simultaneously trying to avoid …

in some ways, fearful-avoidant attachment is like a blend of the other two insecure styles. in that case, it might come as a huge relief to know you’re not alone in experiencing this roller coaster of emotions. a caregiver with a mental illness might not be trying to cause their child anxiety and might be really sad to know that their condition is creating this effect. first, if you’ve recognized yourself as a fearful attacher from reading this post, then …

when someone wants to connect on a deeper level, the person with intimacy issues may even want it too, but the fear of possible hurt is stronger. instead of wanting to relate and move closer, there’s a feeling of shame. if someone grew up believing it was emotionally dangerous to share their needs and feelings, the experience of allowing oneself to be known can feel like anathema. gomez does note that it’s always ok for people to want to take …

they may be vague or non-committal when asked what they want. the closer you start to feel to them or the more you desire a deeper commitment, the more they may pull back, expressing a wish to see other people or becoming less communicative. they may view you in negative ways or see your actions in the worst possible light, suspecting that you are out to take advantage of them or restrict their freedom. they may decide things about finances, …

in that situation both people have made a commitment to each other but that is quite different from intimacy. intimacy is the ability to share the deepest feelings with one’s partner. yet, there are countless numbers of people who feel lonely and unhappy despite the fact of marriage. in other words, commitment is the decision two people make to stay together bult intimacy is the ability and willingness to be open and honest with the other. of course, there are …