as a marriage therapist for two decades, i’ve seen what happens to marriages when one spouse has little or no desire for sex and the other yearns for it desperately. if you’re the spouse whose libido is lacking, remember that your most powerful sexual organ is your brain; in order to feel more sexual, you first have to decide that a loving, satisfying sex life and marriage are important. am i saying you should have sex any time your spouse …

all of it would leave this gaping hole, and i think the same is true when we try to do marriage counseling, but don’t talk about physical intimacy. married couples tend to actually have a lot of questions about what sex is and the place it should hold in their marriage. who is going to bring the word of god and the glory of god to bear into this area of their life? in fact, he created sex as one …

now add some bad habits and interesting idiosyncrasies, throw in a bunch of expectations, and then turn up the heat a little with the daily trials of life. your spouse added a variety, spice, and difference to your life that it didn’t have before. i grew up in ozark, missouri, a tiny town in the southwestern corner of the “show-me” state. we bought an antique and i was expected to refinish it—which created an opportunity for another major difference in …