self sabotaging love

stirring up relationship drama can also be a way to keep your partner interested, dancel tells mbg: “individuals may not feel that they can get better, so they settle for any attention, affection, and connection, negative or positive.” it’s hard not to get paranoid sometimes in relationships, but if you are constantly worried that your partner is cheating or wants to leave you, this could be a projection of your own fears and anxieties about the relationship. everyone holds a …

abandonment issues and sabotaging relationships

if you have a fear of abandonment it often causes a deep fear of intimacy. and it’s almost impossible for love to grow with the lack of authenticity these behaviours create. core beliefs those with a fear of abandonment have tend to be along the lines of – fear of abandonment leads to counterdependency – an inner belief you don’t really need anyone and it’s not a good idea to depend on someone to be there for you. this means …

emotional abandonment in a relationship

emotional abandonment in a relationship often goes unnoticed because actions such as daily routines and obligations camouflage it pretty well. however, even so, when one of the partners stops attending to their partner’s needs, the matter becomes more serious. in the end, none of the partners is obligated to satisfy all the needs of the other. it means that the relationship has become a burden for the partners instead of a source of happiness. without a doubt, when there’s emotional …

keep your love life private

i would prioritize the opinions of friends and family over my mental and relational health. i was a contradictory, self-sabotaging, compulsive liar whose desire to prove everyone wrong and be one of the cool kids, outweighed the self-love that i had no idea how to jumpstart. i wasn’t attracted to the fact that he was completely available, agenda-less, and didn’t feel like he had anything to prove to anyone. i just let my happiness and interest in other people (instead …

new relationships over 50

however, if you do find yourself in love again, it may be time to dip a toe in the water. no-one can replace your first husband and you will never forget him, but there is nothing wrong in moving on with your life and being happy again. talking to yourself nicely is a small way to force yourself to think positively about who you are and what you’re doing in your new relationship. you’ll find the confidence you need to …