in many cases, these couples are stuck because despite many attempts at finding resolution some of their problems just don’t seem to go away.â  they come in because they are fed up of the lack of change, stuck in a vicious cycle, and are now considering separating.â  this is what couples therapy experts, john and julie gottman, call a perpetual problem.â  by definition, a perpetual problem is one that is recurring and difficult to resolve.â  interestingly, the gottmans’ research has …

when thinking about conflict in a relationship, it is important to ascertain whether a problem is solvable or perpetual. these problems are grounded in the fundamental differences that any two people face. instead of solving perpetual problems, what seems to be important is whether or not a couple can establish a dialogue about them. in today’s post, we want to take the opportunity to explain the difference between a solvable problem, a perpetual problem, and a gridlocked perpetual problem.

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in other words, the perpetual conflicts in your relationship may symbolize a profound difference between you and your partner’s personality and lifestyle preferences. without exerting control over freewheeling thoughts, your dreams offer you new and exciting insights into your life. it is even more frustrating to analyze the ways in which your dreams conflict with those of your mate when you don’t know what those dreams are. dr. gottman’s research found a simple (and enjoyable) way to help you navigate …

when they arrive, i welcome them into my office and as i shut the door, they have three options on where to sit. (see: why nobel peace prize winners get divorced) the preferred seating is for the couple to sit on the couch and i sit in one of the chairs. whenever i see a couple that has an issue with an aging parent or a struggling teenager, they always sit on the couch, close together, ready to tackle the …

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