in many cases, these couples are stuck because despite many attempts at finding resolution some of their problems just don’t seem to go away.â  they come in because they are fed up of the lack of change, stuck in a vicious cycle, and are now considering separating.â  this is what couples therapy experts, john and julie gottman, call a perpetual problem.â  by definition, a perpetual problem is one that is recurring and difficult to resolve.â  interestingly, the gottmans’ research has …

when thinking about conflict in a relationship, it is important to ascertain whether a problem is solvable or perpetual. these problems are grounded in the fundamental differences that any two people face. instead of solving perpetual problems, what seems to be important is whether or not a couple can establish a dialogue about them. in today’s post, we want to take the opportunity to explain the difference between a solvable problem, a perpetual problem, and a gridlocked perpetual problem.

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when we violate trust, to any degree, then we are telling our partner that our love is not important and they are not important. they also feel a violation of trust, because you promised to cherish in your vows. if you are going to be married, you need to be humble and accept your partner for who they are. to regain trust requires that apology and then to ask your partner to have faith in you to not do it …

consequently, if people in no sex marriages don’t manage the incompatibility between them, they might start to wonder when to walk away from a sexless marriage. if you are wondering if it is reasonable to be in a no sex marriage, you ask the wrong question. if sex is an integral part of the relationship for spouse(es), then they can feel deprived and dissatisfied with the relationship overall. if you have done all of this and more, and they still …