“you’re not doomed to repeat past mistakes in relationships, but you can easily fall into the same patterns if you aren’t aware of them and don’t take steps to prevent making them again,” board-certified psychiatrist and dating and relationship coach dr. susan edelman tells bustle. so if you identify any of these habits in your new relationship, it may mean it’s time to take a deeper look at what brought you to this point. and having the same arguments over …

many people struggle with intimacy, and fear of intimacy is a common concern in therapy. the following suggestions may allow you and your partner to grow closer. i was abused asexually by my father as a teenager and now am in a relationship that means the world to me but i am having problems being a good lover to him because of my childhood abuse if by being a good lover you mean being less inhibited about sex then i …

there are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. of course, this lack of reflection means that in many cases, the body is overreacting. even if they have managed to extricate themselves from a bad relationship, they may retain the learned impulse to react without reflection to any hint of a repeat. if this describes you, you may in the moment feel a dreadful sense of deja vu and react negatively. instead of allowing yourself …

if left untreated, jealousy can create a permanent wedge between you and your partner, while negatively affecting future relationships. jealousy in a relationship can be healed. how a couple deals with jealousy and other conflicts is vital to their success. it is amazing that something that starts off in our imagination can soon spark out of control and cause such devastating damage. just imagine instead, being able to do all of the things that make you happy instead of having …

trust issues are a very common problem in new relationships. having difficulty with trust is not an inherent and inseparable part of you. trust issues are just a consequence of bad experiences from your past. but they are not a part of you and they can be healed! if he or she rejects you because of your trust issues, or worse, tries to push you to do things you don’t feel ready for, well that’s a red major flag right …