you may be using overthinking as a way to gain control and alleviate the anxiety that this uncertain situation brings. to stop overthinking in relationships, it’s important to identify and accept the things that are and are not in your locus (or area) of control. you can become overwhelmed at the thought of the relationship unexpectedly ending in a similar way to your past experience. if this is the case, your overthinking will stop when your partner stops the untrustworthy …

when that’s the case, you’re no longer focusing on your relationship, which is one reason why overthinking in a relationship could drive you and your partner apart. not to mention, if you say “hi” instead of “hey” and it results in a breakup, they weren’t someone you needed to be with anyway. if that’s the case, “you might be overthinking your relationship because you have unclear communication,” megan stubbs, ed.d., a relationship expert, tells bustle. “grounding helps you stay in …

your browser history can be monitored without your knowledge and it can never be wiped completely. as hard as this might be to hear, it’s important to remember that there is no way to 100% guarantee that your partner will never cheat again. your partner has to make the choice not to cheat, and you can’t control other people’s decisions. it does take a lot of work, and both partners have to be committed to healing the relationship. your relationship …

kelli miller is a psychotherapist, author, and tv/radio host based in los angeles, california. kelli also facilitates groups for those struggling with alcohol and drug addiction as well as anger management groups. kelli was a host on la talk radio, a relationship expert for the examiner, and speaks globally. she received her msw (masters of social work) from the university of pennsylvania and a ba in sociology/health from the university of florida.

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you’re probably wondering how to trust anyone again after someone cheats, whether you decide to stay with the same person or date someone new. i take it you don’t want to be among the cheating statistics. it is possible to keep your head out of the sand without being in constant investigative mode, and if you find that you are in a perpetual state of mental unrest and anxiety, then additional healing should be your goal, not a new partner …