the trick is noticing when the distance gets too big, and knowing how to pull each other back in.” i asked for an example. in that scenario, a couples counselor functions sort of like ground control, helping to guide the pair together. you and your partner will be in a much better position to nip larger issues in the bud if you’re not at each other’s throats. “i recommend getting a referral, if you can,” says debra roberts, the author …

this is unfortunately because far too many couples wait too long before seeking help for their relationship. what many people don’t realize is that one of the best times to attend couples therapy with a licensed marriage and family therapist (lmft) is just before marriage. premarital counseling offers many benefits to the couples that attend. learning how to fight constructively is important to avoid destroying the relationship. it is normal to feel nervous prior to getting married. it is important …

when we first discussed the issue and looked at our options — breaking up right then, ignoring the issue until it became too big to dismiss, or trying to work through it with the help of a therapist — there was really only one good choice. by going to couples counseling, would we be making a big deal out of nothing? even our current therapist was at first surprised when we explained our situation, but not because we’re young or …

once you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s easy to fall into a rut and forget what kept you together. that’s why couples therapists suggest recalling and implementing what you did in the beginning of the relationship to help keep things fresh. “when you stop putting in the effort and doing those little things continuously,” anderson says, “you feel disconnected emotionally.” think of it as a relationship constitution, or a guidebook for keeping both on the same page. the items in …

dan and michelle keinan, the husband-and-wife team that founded city wellness collective, go to therapy on and off when they find themselves in a familiar rut. “instead of feeling doomed to failure and that our tension was a reason to call it quits, we saw it as tailor-made proof that we each married the right person,” slatkin said. ”   luann said that although they can bring out the worst in each other, with better understanding, and reconnecting, they are returning …