it is described as a psychological crisis brought about by events that highlight a person’s growing age, inevitable mortality, and possibly a lack of accomplishments in life. whether the person in a crisis is you or your partner, it’s a time when priorities get questioned and challenged. for example if he quits his job and there’s no new job on the horizon, a mortgage to pay, mouths to feed and little in the way of savings. if your husband has …

it used to leave me feeling dismayed, but now i see the challenges of a midlife marriage as part of the alchemy of love. in the past 20 years, she says, we have crossed a marital rubicon. michael and i met in the 1970s at the local newspaper, where we both worked. i worried about his weight and was forever trying to control what he ate. we had just bought a home in the suburbs, so money was again short. …

there are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. perhaps it’s our work helping troubled couples that reminds us to appreciative the relationship we have. the expectation that ‘love is all you need’ undermines the importance of developing the real skills needed to keep marriage alive and well through midlife. we may be the generation that was encouraged to ask, “what do you think?

rather, it’s in how we talk, how we listen and most …

dual-career couples tend to go through three phases of being particularly vulnerable: when they first learn to work together as a couple; when they experience a midlife reinvention; and in the final stages of their working lives. and when one of them wants to undertake a professional reinvention, what does that mean for the other? they were full of energy, optimistic, and determined to live life to the fullest. in the first transition in particular, couples often look for logistical …