convenience marriage

there are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. a marriage of convenience could only be named, and criticized, when an alternative emerged. on the “pro” side, the best thing about a marriage of convenience is that it’s convenient. but, before you divorce from the marriage of convenience, look around your shared dwelling, and life, and imagine the post-marriage world. and are you ever free from the offending marriage in name only?

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marriage relationship

if the ratio of positivity to negativity in conflicts was 5:1, the relationships were functional. the mismatches usually mean one person wants the other to change, but that person is avoiding change. so remember to keep your sense of humor, and be sensitive to your beloved! instead of blaming your spouse for your feelings of irritability and disappointment in the relationship, express how you feel, but then identify your needs. your goal in a relationship is not to avoid these …

unhealthy love

the national domestic violence hotline reports that “nearly half of all women and men in the united states have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime.” during this season so focused on love, it’s also important to recognize when love is no longer healthy and when it’s time to walk away from a relationship. if you understand what healthy love looks like, it’s easier to recognize the signs that you’re experiencing unhealthy love. healthy love allows you …