there are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. of the four, mad is the emotion that men are most familiar, and comfortable with. ask most men how they feel and you are likely to get a puzzled expression, unless of course, they are angry, in which case they are often quite clear about how they feel. men get sad, glad and even scared; but anger is the only emotion that is socially acceptable for …

those who live with and love someone who has a lot of anger can often get caught up in trying to find fault. that keeps us defensive, trapped in the mode of looking to our partner as the one who is responsible for the problem. that keeps us defensive, trapped in the mode of looking to our partner as the one who is responsible for the problem. but anger is an emotion that often serves to mask other emotions—pain, loneliness, …

i don’t want him to leave; he’s the most supportive and loving person in my life. as a guy, i can say that i bet a lot of your boyfriend’s patience is due to your genuine self-reflection. if you can get just a tiny bit better at predicting when something is going to set you off, it can make it a bit easier to recognize how you’re feeling in the moment. if these outbursts happen in a flash — maybe …

how anger affects a relationship is based on the frequency of outbursts and the intensity. talking with a couple’s counselor about anger issues may help focus on the cause of anger and how couples can work productively together to manage it. it is natural to feel angry with reason, but it is important to learn how to accept it when it occurs in the relationship.

anger has the potential to ruin a relationship if it is not kept under control. …

this article was co-authored by chloe carmichael, phd and by wikihow staff writer, hannah madden. with over a decade of psychological consulting experience, dr. chloe specializes in relationship issues, stress management, self esteem, and career coaching. she is accredited by the american psychological association and is the author of “nervous energy: harness the power of your anxiety” and “dr. chloe’s 10 commandments of dating.” there are 12 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of …