i’m a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of how to not die alone. as the director of relationship science at the dating app hinge, i lead a research team dedicated to helping people find love. after studying psychology at harvard, i ran google’s behavioral science team—the irrational lab.  my work has appeared in the new york times, the atlantic, time. the washington post, gq, glamour, vice, and on hbo and the bbc. i’m a featured speaker at …

but while ury admits that the book is geared toward an older audience, she believes that college students shouldn’t use their youth as an excuse to defer the creation of good dating practices. it wasn’t until the now-dating coach hired her own dating coach that she began to see through her maximizing tendencies and discover “who was hiding in plain sight,” she says. i loved how i felt around him, even if he shuddered at the idea of staying up …