do feel the need to have your girlfriend with you all the time? it’s not that you don’t love your girlfriend, because you do! there might be a couple of reasons why you’re having the feelings in your chest: you might have trust issues from a previous relationship, you feel insecure about yourself, and your girlfriend has probably given you reasons to not trust her. if you feel insecure about yourself and if you feel like you’re not good enough …

we recognize that this may be challenging for some to read and advise those still dealing with the trauma of an affair to exercise their best judgment in reading this. in this phase for recovery, according to the gottman method, it is the cheater’s responsibility to take fault as well as make amends and reparation for their actions. the everyday reminders of my cheating and the verbal lashes i received from my partner made it seem as if it would …

for example, if your boss goes back on a verbal agreement to give you a pay rise, you might say that the primary betrayal is that they have gone against your wishes. if you’re getting to know someone new and they tell you some details about their life, your response might be to do a bit of digging to find out if they’re telling the truth. in addition to tiring you out, living with the sense that “if you want …

i tend to keep my walls up for too long and then let them come crashing down entirely all at once instead of gradually. and letting your boundaries come crashing down all at once instead of giving trust in little bits at a time is setting yourself up to get hurt. one of the problems i’ve figured out about myself is that my gut gave me signs not to trust certain people, and i ignored it. actually listening to your …

kelli miller is a psychotherapist, author, and tv/radio host based in los angeles, california. kelli is currently in private practice and specializes in individual and couples’ relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. kelli was a host on la talk radio, a relationship expert for the examiner, and speaks globally.

she received her msw (masters of social work) from the university of pennsylvania and a ba in sociology/health from the university of florida. there are 11 references cited in …