the other night, as i was pouring a glass of red wine, i asked my husband, “do you ever struggle with anxiety?” in a kind of sarcastic tone… it had been one of those days. because of this, i want to share with you how anxiety affects you, your marriage, and what you can do about it. i can look at statistics of worst-case scenarios and somehow figure out a way that i will become part of the negative outcome. …

five years later, they had a low-key wedding in france and went on to have two daughters, now aged five and three. he would come home and think the right thing to do was to take the baby off my hands, but it made me feel like a terrible mother. but we live in an age of curated perfection where the pressure to get it right, from our bodies to our relationships, has never been greater. in the end i …

i knew my husband cared and wanted me to be happy, but he never followed through on what i told him i needed. i know that in many ways i have to be my husband’s caretaker, and i can see god’s hand in this because i’m skilled in the areas my husband is not. if my husband and i had known in the beginning what we know now… it’s not that he wouldn’t, but that he couldn’t. i’m a self-diagnosed …

there are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. and while it can bounce back and forth from partner to partner, both the cause of our insecurity and its cure reside in us alone. knowing our attachment style is beneficial, because it can help us to realize ways we may be recreating a dynamic from our past. finally, it can make us more aware of how our feelings of insecurity may be misplaced, based on …