regardless of how you feel about what your partner does, who your partner is friends with, or anything else, if you’re telling them what they are and aren’t allowed to do in terms of those things, you’re likely being too controlling. if you regularly criticize those around you, that too could be a subtle sign that you’re being too controlling, dr. sherrie campbell, ph.d., a licensed counselor, psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and the author of “success equations: a path …

you need to understand the difference between a controlling partner and someone who just really misses you and wants to interact with you throughout the day. an interaction with you is a drug to them that constantly reassures them that they still have you. they give you the love and attention you crave in a relationship. for example, if your partner wants to criticize your career, they will sit down and have a real conversation with you.

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we want to trust that the people we live with, work with, and love, are going to do everything in their power not to hurt us. certainly, when we perceive trust has been broken, it is difficult to regain. you need to trust yourself to handle whatever he does or whatever happens in life and you need to trust spirit to only provide that which you need to handle.” even though it seemed counter-intuitive that i didn’t have to trust …

some date nights are out of the house, and most date nights are at home date nights in (after we put the little one to sleep). you need to put in some work to build a solid foundation, and then you need to put in some work to plan things that will keep your marriage fresh and romantic and exciting. my husband was like putty in my hands…and it sparked quite the ending to a wonderful, backyard date idea . …

you may be using overthinking as a way to gain control and alleviate the anxiety that this uncertain situation brings. to stop overthinking in relationships, it’s important to identify and accept the things that are and are not in your locus (or area) of control. you can become overwhelmed at the thought of the relationship unexpectedly ending in a similar way to your past experience. if this is the case, your overthinking will stop when your partner stops the untrustworthy …