every date, text, call, and interaction has the potential for you both to discover more about each other’s inner worlds. the more you learn about each other, the more you can create shared meaning together and, even at the early stages, have rituals of connection over which you bond. in eight dates: essential conversations for a lifetime of love, drs. john and julie gottman, along with doug and dr. rachel carlton abrams, offer discussion topics that help you get to …

a simple, effective way for couples to earn deposits in their emotional bank account is to reunite at the end of the day and talk about how it went. if this sounds like you and your partner, changing your approach to these end-of-the-day talks can ensure that they help both of you unwind. agree on a time that will meet both of your needs. this talk gives you and your partner the space to discuss whatever is on your mind …

many of my group therapy sessions in long island are focused on relationships. while those that meet within couples counseling are looking for ways to save or improve a struggling relationship, those that meet in groups are often looking for individualized help with relationships as a whole.

but within this group therapy, there are often many themes that come up that the people in the group share, talk about, and hope to use to grow. some of these themes include: …

we recognize that this may be challenging for some to read and advise those still dealing with the trauma of an affair to exercise their best judgment in reading this. in this phase for recovery, according to the gottman method, it is the cheater’s responsibility to take fault as well as make amends and reparation for their actions. the everyday reminders of my cheating and the verbal lashes i received from my partner made it seem as if it would …