dating someone with emotional baggage

“baggage” is a part of life—the natural reaction to heartbreak, loss, trauma, and abuse. but baggage doesn’t necessarily mean a relationship is destined for catastrophe—if you deal with it in a healthy way. as tempting as it is to get him to tell you what’s up, it is important to remember that each person is different and unique in how they deal with their emotions. so, how do you deal with emotional baggage when it’s not your own?

it’s most …

the problem with overlapping relationships

there are several reasons partners choose to end a relationship in this way, which we’ll examine in this post, along with alternatives to overlapping, and ways to grieve if your partner has chosen to end your relationship by “overlapping”. and, once the overlapper begins to get close to someone new, they may unconsciously start to pull walls up or feel guilt or pressure to end the relationship because of promises to – or honeymoon stage dreams with – a new …

late bloomer dating advice

if you fall for a late bloomer, don’t worry, because they aren’t as innocent as you think. late bloomers might not have been in relationships of their own, but they know the ins and outs of dating. they’ve watched their friends make millions of mistakes, and since they were on the outside, they were able to see the situation clearly and determine what should have been done differently. they’ve waited years to find someone worth their time — so there’s …

he broke my trust

i used to think it was because i really loved the other person and that it was some inverted sign of maturity because i was choosing to “work through it,” at the expense of my dignity. this was all due to un-dealt-with trauma and shame from my past, which made me a sitting duck for believing lies that were just as obnoxious as the ones i was telling myself. and i no longer feel guilty about not wanting to continue …

dating boundaries list

healthy boundaries are a reflection of your principles, rules, and guidelines that you have set for yourself. if you feel your partner is speaking from unjustified anger or with a disrespectful tone, you are within your right to remove yourself from the scenario. if you need help, it can be good to establish where your boundaries are and what you do and do not want help with. in an argument, you or your partner may say things you regret that …