discussing a problem or impasse in your house is not a formal legal proceeding, and it’s not about ‘proving’ to some invisible judge that you’re right and your partner is wrong. even if you want to rush to defend yourself, do the opposite:  attempt to meet them in a place of collaborative discussion and healing. what about this is upsetting you?’  rather than engage in defensiveness, try to focus on just neutral exploration of your partner’s feelings to understand them …

but, whether gay, straight, trans or any other combination, when two people come together to date or to get serious, they face the same highs and lows that surface in any relationship. ditto for later on when you start to dig deeper into issues like building trust, managing expectations, tackling insecurities, navigating communication styles, and even dealing with exes who might be friends or parents of your children. isolation, including being rejected by family members, friends or co-workers, deciding who …

so when queer people find love, they want to hold onto it. whether you did the breaking up or you got broken up with, there are a lot of emotions and feelings flying around that can be hard to deal with. crying is a healthy way to deal with your emotions, as well as being a natural way to relive stress in the body. talk, talk, talk and talk. after a breakup your mind can be all over the place …

i’ve decided to no longer post and answer letters involving topics i feel like i’ve covered enough already, but this is a new issue and i wanted to share it (trigger warning: mention of suicide). i made boxes of his favorite things for his friends and family, saved a few things for myself, and liquidated the rest. my brother and my first husband weren’t particularly close, but they got along well enough. i loved that rolex and i wanted it …

given that there are lots of myths and misconceptions about lesbian sex, it’s important to educate yourself about how sex can work and how to practice safer sex. sex between women isn’t limited to lesbians. it all depends on the couple and what they like to do. you’re welcome to define sex as broadly or as narrowly as you’d like! and if your partner has the same anatomy as you, masturbating may help you navigate their anatomy better. it may …