as experts in the area of real relationships, elitesingles breaks down what you want to know about being 30 and single. now your relationships tend to have more of a future focus and if your goals and values aren’t in line, it’s not worth hanging around for. feeling hard to get can be a great ego boost, but dating in your 30s is about cutting to the chase. the double whammy of being a little more selective and the dating …

after the stress of going through a divorce, it can be difficult to think about dating again. even if you know your marriage is really, truly over, you still need to give yourself some time and space. although it might be tempting to lick your wounds with positive attention from another, this distraction can actually inhibit you from the healing work that is necessary to move forward in a healthy way with someone in the future.” “instead, you can look …

the rules was a dating guide, a set of instructions on what to do and not do to catch a man. i recently told a friend that it was the 20th anniversary of the rules, and she whispered, “the crazy thing is, most of that book was right.” i was certain, at the age of 26, that my failure to secure a boyfriend meant i was doing something wrong. i spent that week in a fever of anticipation. he screamed, …

behind a fear of intimacy is a fear of facing up to yourself and what you perceive (erroneously) as your weaknesses. are you so used to hiding the parts of yourself that you don’t like that you mould yourself to be what you think others want? there are ways to learn how to connect, if you are willing to put in the time and effort into what can be quite a learning curve. but the good news is that admitting …

however, there may come a time when you’re no longer interested in maintaining multiple connections and you simply want to concentrate on your primary partner. if you want to close your open relationship because your partner seems to be forming deeper and more meaningful connections (or simply more numerous ones) than you’re comfortable with, it’s unfair to put the kibosh on things. if you agree to an open relationship, you don’t get to suddenly change the rules because they’re not …