you’re probably wondering how to trust anyone again after someone cheats, whether you decide to stay with the same person or date someone new. i take it you don’t want to be among the cheating statistics. it is possible to keep your head out of the sand without being in constant investigative mode, and if you find that you are in a perpetual state of mental unrest and anxiety, then additional healing should be your goal, not a new partner …

if trust issues aren’t the number one cause of breakups, it has to be one of the leading causes. these are some of the signs of trust issues: do you have a password on your phone? if not, it can be a clear sign that you have some problems with trust. the real question is what exactly you feel the need to keep private. another true indication of trust issues is the tendency to think of the worst case in …

chronic insecurity robs you of your peace and prevents you from being able to engage with your partner in a relaxed and authentic way. the majority of relationship insecurity is based on irrational thoughts and fears—that you are not good enough, that you will not be ok without a partner, that you will never find anyone better, that you are not truly lovable. to feel more secure in a relationship it helps to know what you have to offer to …

but i do think the question of fidelity, of why some people choose to remain faithful and others do not, is fairly straightforward and easily answered. the first way is that a person is just shallow and selfish and needs to be gratified constantly. chances are that if your cheating deadbeat of an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend is a miserable over-compensator, cheating isn’t the only destructive self-gratifying behavior they pursue. it’s not rocket science to say that the likelihood of infidelity in a …

kelli miller is a psychotherapist, author, and tv/radio host based in los angeles, california. kelli also facilitates groups for those struggling with alcohol and drug addiction as well as anger management groups. kelli was a host on la talk radio, a relationship expert for the examiner, and speaks globally. she received her msw (masters of social work) from the university of pennsylvania and a ba in sociology/health from the university of florida.

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