they have no trouble revealing themselves to and occasionally relying on others when the situation calls for it. and they are excellent caregivers.4 anxious attachment types are often nervous and stressed about their relationships. therefore, avoidants tend to be the ones in control in both friendships and romantic relationships, as they are almost always willing to leave. but anxious-avoidant aaron will score high on both anxious and avoidant types and low on the secure scale. as a result, they exhibit …

an attachment style is the attitude or pattern of behavior you tend towards when connecting with others. avoidant attachment is an attachment style a child develops when their parent or main caretaker doesn’t show care or responsiveness past providing essentials like food and shelter. they still struggle and feel anxiety or sadness, but do so alone, and deny the importance of those feelings. today, roughly 30 percent of people show avoidant attachment patterns. when a child wants support, avoidant parents …

the fearful-avoidant attachment style is considered to be a combination of the anxious attachment style and the avoidant attachment style. in general though, it might hard to tell if you have the fearful-avoidant attachment style without consulting with a professional, in part because it tends to present a combination of behaviors that also align with both the anxious and avoidant attachment styles. people with this attachment style tend to both seek out connection and closeness while simultaneously trying to avoid …

in some ways, fearful-avoidant attachment is like a blend of the other two insecure styles. in that case, it might come as a huge relief to know you’re not alone in experiencing this roller coaster of emotions. a caregiver with a mental illness might not be trying to cause their child anxiety and might be really sad to know that their condition is creating this effect. first, if you’ve recognized yourself as a fearful attacher from reading this post, then …

they may be vague or non-committal when asked what they want. the closer you start to feel to them or the more you desire a deeper commitment, the more they may pull back, expressing a wish to see other people or becoming less communicative. they may view you in negative ways or see your actions in the worst possible light, suspecting that you are out to take advantage of them or restrict their freedom. they may decide things about finances, …