in this q&a episode, i take three awesome questions that listeners sent in and try my best to give some helpful advice. to be clear, i think that it’s totally valid for you to be concerned about sex and if you are not satisfied being celibate for the rest of your life, then something definitely needs to change. there are elements of this that are on him and elements that you need to take responsibility for. for your sake, independent of the relationship, therapy might be a good idea to help you find some hope in the situation and cope with these negative feelings that are burdening you. eventually, you might find that you are motivated to work out or engage in active hobbies together because you want to work toward progress as a couple. altogether, i think this is a good prompt to focus on you and on your relationship and the communication between you, and then see where it goes and take it from there.
even among people with ptsd, you will see a ton of variability in the way that their symptoms are expressed. hypervigilance, or always looking for signs of danger, is a common symptom and it’s important to recognize that this causes exhaustion. then there is a carry-over effect where they are going to be even more exhausted and more out of it the next day. first off, i just want to say you are strong for living your life in the context of this difficult anxiety for so long. this can help to separate out symptoms that you should be legitimately concerned about and ones that you can let exist on the back burner while you go about your life. when it comes to waiting for appointments and the anticipatory anxiety that can come from worrying about what you will find out. send them a link or shoot over a screenshot, and share it on social media to show your support – you never know who needs to hear this type of information.
my husband and i have not had sex in a year and a half. for the first six months of our relationship, we had sex all the time. so you can imagine my husband’s confusion when i suddenly seemed to lose interest. it was around the time we moved in together, and i didn’t know what was wrong. we thought it was a difference in libido, so we tried things like taking sex off the table for a month. my husband began to feel like i wasn’t attracted to him anymore. we had a lot of conversations about the fact that this wasn’t fair or what he wanted in a relationship. i felt detached and numb. i knew i was attracted to my husband, because i felt it. sometimes i’d give into some form of sexual activity, but i always felt empty and used afterwards. but i couldn’t internalize it and apply it to my own life.
i swore that my trauma hadn’t affected me to that level. i was determined to take back my body. it’s only now, with clear vision, that i can look back and see that i was not in an emotionally healthy place to be making these kinds of decisions. but for me, at that time, i wasn’t capable of it and i didn’t realize it. that all came to a head for me when my husband and i moved in. and it’s because of the safety that i finally felt with my husband and in our relationship that the symptoms of my trauma finally shone through. today, my husband and i are seeing a wonderful counselor. as we, and i, start to work through this stuff, i get triggered. but i choose to think of it as progress, as a sign that i’m beginning to move through the numbing phase and onto the healing phase. but now that we’re both on the same page and the problem is clear, we feel a freedom and a closeness that we haven’t felt in a long time. and while having regular date nights and finding activities to do together doesn’t bring quite the same intimacy that sex does, we’re taking steps in the direction of healing and we both finally feel hopeful that one day, we’ll have sex again.
in episode 170, i take three awesome listener questions on health anxiety, ptsd in literature, and coping with a sexless marriage. sexless marriage – my husband and i haven’t had sex for a year for the first six months of our relationship, we had sex all the time. couples who once had healthy intimate relationships may find themselves feeling disconnected. ptsd can cause night sweats, nightmares, and, ptsd avoiding intimacy, ptsd avoiding intimacy, platonic marriage.
sometimes breaking up is the best solution in the case of incompatibility, but what can be done if the cause of a sexless period is more post-traumatic stress disorder is is a mental health condition triggered by experiencing or witnessing a are you struggling in a sexless marriage? sexless marriage because of ptsd. i’ve been married for over 18 years and most of our marriage has been largely sexless. we have been in therapy for over 10, .
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