there was not any pressure to go with the idea or not.we do not do too much without the other, i know this conversation was not because he is already seeing someone else or anything like i have read about on the internet. we have continued to bring up other things that we have thought of after the original conversation and talk about what we feel or think as it comes up. as i did some… i guess you could say research… i found very general situations like “we have other partners that we see regulary” which would not apply to us as we would end up with different people in our ‘random experence opportunties’, or “my husband is out of town regulary so i see this piticular person” as me or him are not traveling for work or anything like that. just not stay with the same person all of the time as we are not trying to have feeling be affected ie. in my case – yes – i began to crave the particular touch of a guy i was playing with (and my husband knew and approved of and would occasionally share). in other words is this a journey to learn something and once a certain goal (# of women, enough experiences) it ends with a certain enlightenment and he returns to exclusive with you?
because i absolutely get caught up in the rush of being with him, yet he really wants to talk about a future someday together. it doesn’t phase him at all, and had he not been such a good man in so many other aspects of life that are important to me, i would never have even bothered getting married again. i have a different group of friends, i didn’t grow up here like my husband did and hence, it’s not really that difficult. hence, i didn’t think that having been clear about my intentions and expectations up front with this man that i would have this issue. i dont have much knowlege on the whole open marriage or swingers thing but i did read one time this is where the highest risk for all sorts of std’s and others is easiest to get and that to me is really not worth it specially in a happy great going marriage no thanks. my wife and the other woman both want to get me involved, but the other husband is ok with her having other women, but not other guys.
i would like to get some insight from those of you who have or had an open marriage or swing. not surprisingly, he seems kind of into it and we have talked more and more about exploring some of the possibilities of an open marriage together. the thing is, he is a premature ejaculator so he never stays up long enough for me to get off from penetration, and i used to get off all the time from being on top of my exes. and, he also has a pee fetish that i’m just not that in to, so i figured he was feeling cheated sexually, hence the swinging talk. i said i just can’t envision how a casual encounter with someone turns into sex without being awkward, and he said “you’ve had a one-night-stand, right?”.
i’m just not pulling out all the stops ever time because i’m tired, i’ve had two kids, we have been together 9 years, and i feel like what i get in return from him is just ok. as he was telling me stories of his past i started to get a sick feeling in my stomach and knew i was jealous, but not crazy jealous. i feel like he was trying to say he is such a stud, and i’m a prude. i wondered if i felt more jealous because he was talking about having sex with someone he had a long term relationship with and loved. obviously, we are both missing something sexually in our marriage and even though we do try to make an effort to spice it up, i feel like it will never be enough for the two of us. i’m just not sure how to tell if i can handle it or not. if you feel a message or content violates these standards and would like to request its removal please submit the following information and our moderating team will respond shortly.
my spouse and i are going to open our marriage soon, but i want to be able to set guidelines hi bleeucheeze – and welcome to the forum! my husband and i have been together for 13 years, married for 5, and known each other for 17. we do not have any marrage issues. i’m trying to figure out if your issue is with having an open marriage, his past relationships, or your sex life. i do not have an open relationship and it’s, .
a couple years ago after many discussions i decided to allow my boyfriend to have sex with another women. the rules were it couldn’t be anyone will be hard and scary at first, but i think it’s more in lign with our true nature as human being. most of us aren’t made to have sex and love we are both open and honest about our feelings and desires and have absolutely no trust issues. but, sexually the relationship is asymmetrical,, .
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