a simple, effective way for couples to earn deposits in their emotional bank account is to reunite at the end of the day and talk about how it went. if this sounds like you and your partner, changing your approach to these end-of-the-day talks can ensure that they help both of you unwind. agree on a time that will meet both of your needs. this talk gives you and your partner the space to discuss whatever is on your mind outside your marriage. if this is the case, check out “coping with your partner’s sadness, fear, and anger” in “the seven principles that make marriage work.” allow this space to be a place of celebration too. it’s very easy to let your mind wander, but losing yourself will make your partner feel like you’ve lost touch with them.
it’s natural to want to fix problems or make your partner feel better when they express pain. it is important, but as psychologist haim ginott says, “understanding must precede advice.” it’s only when your partner feels fully understood that they will be receptive to suggestions. express support of your partner’s view even if you feel their perspective is unreasonable. if your partner is feeling alone while facing difficulty, express that you are there with them and you two are in this together. it’s probably best to leave it alone.” if you have this type of conversation every day, it will benefit your marriage. you’ll come away with the feeling that your partner is on your side. kyle works in the love lab where he nerds out on the science of relationships.
you expect them to be loyal — and to stand by your side. tune in to the next episode of small things often for another quick tip from the gottman institute — helping you maintain and strengthen all of your relationships. be present in the conversation when your partner comes to you and says, “i can’t stand that we’ve been bickering all day over text. tune in to the next episode of small things often for another quick tip from the gottman institute — helping you maintain and strengthen all of your relationships. you’re listening to small things often from the gottman institute, where we talk you through research-based tips to help improve your relationships in 5 minutes or less. and always be on the lookout to look for things your partner is doing right — and then share your appreciation for it. tune in to the next episode of small things often for another quick tip from the gottman institute — helping you maintain and strengthen all of your relationships. turn that into a habit of 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